8 Ways to Avoid Bullies at School

Every school in the country experiences some level of bullying within its four walls. And while a lot is being done to eradicate bullying andimprove school climates, bullying will always exist to some degree. As a result, every student needs to develop skills that will keep them from being targeted bybullies. Here are the top eight skills kids need to develop in order to avoid school bullies.

Appear Confident

Bullies look for kids that display insecurity, fear, and low self-esteem. How victims respond, how they hold their head, whether they stand tall or are slumped, even the tone of their voice can signal that a kid might make an easy target. What's more, teaching kids to appear confident is sometimes easier than teaching them to tell the bully to stop or to have a witty comeback.一些孩子没有自信bone in their body and if they try tostand up to a bullyverbally, it can fail.

Make Eye Contact

Teach your child how to make firm eye contact and send a non-verbal message that says "knock it off." Remember, eye contact communicates self-confidence and self-esteem. And bullies are more likely to back off if a potential target looks them right in the eye.

Let Go of Victim Thinking

When your child holds on to a feeling of injustice, he will begin to chronically feel like a victim. And, if your child feels like a victim, they will act like a victim. What's more, kids that maintain this mindset will begin to see the world as an unjust and unfair place.

Be sure your child knows that being avictim of bullyingdoes not define who they are as a person. Also, to prevent victim-thinking, avoid getting emotionally pulled into how badly your child feels. While it is important to be empathetic and understanding, you should avoid commiserating. Instead, help them find ways to move out of a painful situation and get through it.

Be Assertive

Make sure your kids know the difference between aggressive behavior andassertive behavior. For instance, assertive people stand up for their rights and are comfortabledefending themselves对不公平或其他人。他们使用一个强大的一个d confident voice to get their point across in a respectful manner. Meanwhile, an aggressive person uses control, intimidation, and yelling to get their way.

Build Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is a core component of bullying prevention. Kids with healthy self-esteem are more confident and capable. Self-esteem also can help prevent bullying. Bullies are often looking for an easy target—someone who will react to their taunts and teases. As a result, they often steer clear of kids that are comfortable in their own skin. Even if kids with healthy self-esteem are targeted by bullies, they have an easier timecoping with the bullying.

Nurture Friendships

Bullies seek out kids who lack connections or who are isolated and target them. Meanwhile, kids who have friends are less likely to be bullied than those who are alone.

Even one significant friend at school can greatly reduce the likelihood that your child will be bullied. And even if your child is still targeted by bullies, having friends will make it easier for them to overcome bullying if it does occur. Friends can reassure your child that the things the bully says or does do not define who your child is.

Be Aware of Bullying Hot Spots

Make sure your kids know that there are hot spots at school where bullying is more likely to occur. These areas might include the locker room, the bathrooms, the lunchroom, the playground, or theschool bus. Even a remote hallway with very little adult supervision may be a prime spot for bullying.

Help your child identify and think about where these places might be. Then, brainstorm together how these areas might become safer or be avoided altogether. For instance, encourage your child to travel with a buddy or two. Another option is to sit near the front of the school bus and stay in highly visible areas duringrecess.

Put Responsibility for Bullying Where It Belongs

Most of the time, kids tend to blame themselves when they are bullied. They falsely believe they did something to cause it or that something is wrong with them. As a result, victims often don’t tell anyone about the bullying and try to change how they look or act in order to avoid being bullying. Instead, teach kids that bullying is a choice made by the bully. The bully is completely responsible for their actions. No one caused them to behave that way, including your child.

A Word From Verywell

Remember, the first line of defense against bullying is being prepared. For this reason, work with your kids on knowing how to avoid bullies at school and understanding what to do if they are targeted. By doing so, you are not only helping create a barrier of protection, but you are instilling the confidence they need to handle the situation if it arises.